All posts in tag: marriage

Christine Carter Is your marriage losing its luster?

One of the greatest things about our long-term romantic relationships is that they can provide comfort and predictability in this wild world we live in.

But let’s face it: Long-term relationships can get a little boring. Within nine to eighteen months, research suggests, 87 percent of couples lose that knee-quaking excitement … More >

Claude Fischer Meeting, mating and the Web

Marriage is ancient and universal. But even in the short history of the United States, who, when, where, how and why we marry has varied significantly. For instance, Americans began marrying across racial lines at noteworthy rates in just the last couple of generations. Also, the typical age at which … More >

Jeremy Adam Smith You can’t have it all, but you might get a “thank you”

“Having it all” has been trending for two weeks, ever since Anne-Marie Slaughter’s blockbuster essay “Why Women Still Can’t Have it All” went live on the website of The Atlantic magazine.

“It’s time to stop fooling ourselves,” says the Princeton professor and former State Department official. “The women who have managed … More >

Claude Fischer Gay vows

Much of the to-do about President Obama’s coming out on gay marriage has focused on (besides the political strategy involved) what it tells us about Americans’ tolerance for homosexuality.

Noteworthy as well is what the to-do tells about Americans’ — gay and straight Americans’ — attitudes towards marriage. In same week … More >

Christine Carter The ‘good’ divorce

The title of this post is misleading: Divorce is difficult and painful for everyone involved, especially kids. I’ve never known anyone to have a “good” divorce, in that way you have a good meal or good sex — even when divorce was the right thing to do for everyone, including … More >

Christine Carter Is divorce immature and selfish?

Recently, the best-selling author and popular blogger Penelope Trunk declared divorce “immature and selfish.” She claimed divorce is “nearly always terrible for kids” (and “your case is not the exception”); that it is a sign of mental illness (specifically, of Borderline Personality Disorder); and that it is something that “dumb … More >

Rodolfo Mendoza-Denton Idealizing your partner: Relationship poison or protection?

Nobody’s perfect, so they say, and conventional wisdom would hold that entering marriage starry-eyed and blind to your partner’s weaknesses only foreshadows future disappointment and relationship trouble. Some research even supports this idea: a 13-year longitudinal study by Tom Huston at the University of Texas Austin (Huston et al., 2001) … More >

Claude Fischer Marrying — up, down, sideways

The Pew Research Center recently reported news about marriage from the U.S. Census Bureau: In 2010 just 51% of all American adults were married, compared to 72% in 1960, and Americans who did marry tied the knot later in life. In reality, the situation is not as radically new as … More >

Christine Carter These dads get it

The research on dads this year may not be as salacious as, say, the theories about why dad-to-be Anthony Weiner would risk his career and marriage by sending narcissistic and semi-nude photos of himself to women. But the kind of post I’m tempted to write about that (e.g., “How Not to … More >

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