In my last post, I introduced the idea of “motivational interviewing,” a way to engage with adolescents to make them feel heard, understood, and, ultimately, receptive to our wisdom.
This technique, which has been proven effective in clinical psychology, is particularly useful when we want to influence our teens or tweeners … More >
I frequently hear complaints from parents that their teenagers — or, more accurately, their adolescents — are irrational.
Kids say they want to get into a good college, for example, but then they miss school because they’ve stayed up half the night watching movies. Or they say they’d like to keep … More >
Art supplies, a cool thumb-drive, and a new backpack are nothing short of thrilling in my household. We love preparing for school. And like a lot of parents, I assumed for years that success in school would be a safe route to happiness in life.
But a new study, which followed … More >
Are parents happier than their childless peers?
For the last five years or so, I’ve answered that question with a resounding “no.” Statistics (not to mention anecdotal evidence) led me to believe that parents tend to be more stressed and less happy.
In some ways, this seems understandable, even obvious. Folks without … More >
One of the cardinal rules of writing is this: Show, Don’t Tell.
The rule means that when one is trying to describe a character’s actions, a writer should avoid describing inner states when possible, relying instead on showing the character’s actions. You can think about it as if the writer’s job … More >
The title of this post is misleading: Divorce is difficult and painful for everyone involved, especially kids. I’ve never known anyone to have a “good” divorce, in that way you have a good meal or good sex — even when divorce was the right thing to do for everyone, including … More >
“I’m only 6. I can’t afford a lobbyist.“
―sign held by a little girl at Occupy Oakland
“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.“
―Martin Luther King Jr.
Although I wish, now, that I’d been more involved in the Children’s Brigade in Oakland, I confess that I … More >
We tend to be a pet heavy household. At one point, we had two dogs and two cats; when they started passing on, we started getting pet rats, which in my opinion are the perfect pet for kids, despite their horrible PR problem (those who don’t flinch … More >
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